FORT GIBSON — Pre-teen boys squirmed at some of the things Boulevard Christian Church Family Minister Steve Moss had to say.

“Your eyes and mind are as much sexual organs as your ...,” Moss said as hundreds of boys chuckled nervously inside the Fort Gibson High School auditorium Tuesday.

Moss spoke during the Boys’ Bash 2009, sponsored by the Pregnancy Resource Center of Muskogee. He said he wanted to tell the seventh- and eighth-graders the value of remaining sexually pure until marriage.

About 900 boys from 19 area schools were expected at the Boys’ Bash, which included Moss’s presentation, a barbecue lunch and games in the Fort Gibson gym.

“We try to be proactive in giving them things to think about,” Moss said before his speech. “I just feel like they’re getting sexual messages from the media and movies, but nobody’s making movies talking about the consequences.”

In his presentation, Moss compared sex before and after marriage to a variety of fires.

“If I started a fire in the living room, it would keep me warm for a few minutes while the house burns down,” he said. “It is better to light a fire in the fireplace.”

He said sex after marriage is like that warming fire in the fireplace, which is more satisfying.

“I challenge you guys to make decisions to stay sexually pure,” Moss said. “And we need to make sure our minds stay pure.”

He said sex has consequences that include pregnancy and sexually transmitted diseases.

“There are all kinds of three- or four-minute dads out there,” he said, noting that the brief time it takes to have sex could result in a girl’s pregnancy.

“And if your partner has had two other sexual partners, and those each had two partners, and those had two partners, you don’t know the history of all these other partners,” he said.

Moss brought four boys from the audience to demonstrate four stages in a man’s life: Birth, childhood and teens, marriage and death. He said boys have many years to enjoy sex after they get married.

Nova Smith of Sadler Arts Academy said he got the message.

“It’s just not a really good thing to have sex before you’re married,” he said, adding that remaining abstinent through his teen years “shouldn’t be too much of a challenge.”

Eighth-grader Rodney Jones of the 7th & 8th Grade Center said he learned “having sex leads to pregnancy sometimes.”

James Kinman, a middle-school teacher at Rougher Alternative Academy said he hopes the boys got the message “that it is OK to be abstinent.”

He said students experience a lot of peer pressure and see a lot of things on television that make premarital sex socially acceptable.

“Hopefully they will see that this is not like that on TV,” he said. “TV is pretend.”



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